I've been brushing up on my reading, and this is my latest book.
I haven't ended a relationship recently, but the book looked like it was stuffed full of good advice. And it definitely is! So, I'm going to write a few posts to help navigate anyone that is going through or has gone through a break up recently.
The thing that really sucks about a breakup is that all of the sudden you no longer have that great friend around to talk to and share things with. You were used to always having someone there when no one else was. But now, that person is gone. And it is lonely. But, no matter how lonely it gets, remember that he or she looked at how awesome you are, evaluated the relationship and basically said, "eh no thanks. I'd rather hang out with someone else." Or, you said it to them. No great relationship has one or more people saying it's just ho hum. Good quality relationships consist of two happy people that want to spend all that time together. So, while the loneliness is tough to deal with, I'd say it's better than spending time with someone you don't want to be around or someone who doesn't want to be around you.
Instead of trying to fill that loneliness with unsatisfying relationships or habits, focus on you. Figure out what you liek and spend all your time doing those things. Wouldn't it be awesome to meet someone new who was totally into those things too?